What women REALLY want...

 

I was ranting to pete last night, and no matter what he said, it wasn't helping. WHY? because there was NO solution to my rant. I didn't want an answer, or for him to come up with a solution to my problem. I just wanted him to LISTEN and make me feel better. which, he did.

 

Freud asked it first… What do Women REALLY want?

In my humble opinion…it’s not a big mystery. Men act like were soooo complicated… well, let me break this down for you ‘Gents.

We want your time.

 When it all comes down to it, we want to spend time with YOU. I know most of the time, I don’t mind where or what we’re doing, as long as I’m spending time with my guy. But occasionally… we want a little time invested into the plans. And I said time, not money. We don’t care if it’s dinner at Olive Garden or a Redbox rental, as long as you put a little thought and effort into it. Ship the kid next door, and play a little truth or dare on the patio… ;)

When you ask us how our day was, we love it when you actually LISTEN. Pete is really good at this, and I can’t tell you how AWESOME it is to have someone who actually cares what I have to say. The downside is, he has now opened the FLOOD GATES and probably wishes Id shut the hell up. Sorry not sorry.

Make us feel SPECIAL

We really love it when you come up behind us and put your arms around us when we’re sad, or stressed, or having a bad day. We like when you notice that we got our hair cut or lost five pounds.  We like to be winked at. We love intelligent banter and witty sparring. We want you to buy us little gifts, just because. A weed you picked on your way home from work. A surprise Frappuccino from Starbucks. A new book! A surprise lunch date… When we say we want flowers, we don’t want a lecture on the LAW OF DIMINISHING RETURNS or crap like that. We want them for two reasons. 1. They make us feel loved, and SPECIAL. And 2. We can rub it in everyone else’s face who DIDN’T get flowers. Boo yah. I get not doing it all the time… but occasionally… that would be nice.

 

Make us laugh!

We want to laugh. We want to be flirted with. Gone are the days when you can view us as one of the guys, and now were entering the time where you get to see us in all our scary glory ( me at 8 am on a Saturday yelling at Jordan with no makeup on… and he’s still with me! Damn… ) but we want to know that we can still joke around with you. We can argue about bills and money, but still have a lighter side of the conversation too. It’s not fair when you save that side of yourself for your friends. It’s what first drew us in, please don’t let it go away!

 

We want a MAN. Not a child.

We want you to have goals and dreams and ambition. You don’t have to have tons of money or drive a fancy car or shower us with extravagant gifts…but we want you to be passionate and driven to achieve something. We want to know that you’re willing to challenge yourself and reach for something greater. Even if you don’t catch it. (We’ll be there even if you don’t catch it).

We want you to have your own space to grow and become and dream. We want you to respect our space to grow and become and dream.

We want to be there for you along the way. And not as a nag, but as a partner.

 

We want you to be our best friend, our safe haven, our calm in the storm, a shoulder to cry on, the killer of the bees, an ear to listen, the defender of our honor when we come under attack from the world or work, or our imaginations.

We want you to love us even when we’re not being very lovable (because we’ll do the same for you). We want you to be willing to fight it out or talk it out or work it out instead of going to bed angry.

We want you to be honest when we ask you if these pants make us look fat (okay…no we don’t).

So take us on spur of the moment dates. Drive around and just talk. Do something fun with US, instead of saving it all for the boys. We deserve it too! Hang out with us and actually ENJOY the time spent

This is what (most) women really want.

It really is as simple…and as complicated…as that.